Wow where has the time gone? I swear it still amazes me how Ryan and I got together. It reads like a mini movie. If you are not a romantic then there is no need to read any further!! If you are hunker down with a tissue and Enjoy!
Well Ryan and I have been in each others lives since we were six year old. I would be my God-sister's guest at her Sunday School class that Ryan and his twin brother Bryan were in as well. We never played together or even really aware of each other because he was a boy....
Ewww! As the years roll on, we found each other back in the same school ... sort of. In the 7
th grade, Ryan's school was in a fire and had no where to go and the school I was in open there doors to them while their school was being repaired. It wasn't for long and we never were aware because they kept the schools separate. Again God feeling that we were too young to handle what he had in store! By the time we got to High School we were at a Girls and Boys school! The Boys school went broke and was forced to make my all girl school co-ed. Ryan and I were never in the same social circles in High School. I was in a relationship that lasted for almost 6 years. So we never hung out until Graduation Night. That night proved that I was going to need someone who I could count on no matter what! The guy who I was dating at the time left me to fend for myself that
nite, basically stranded b/c he wanted to drink and took his dad's car home! I just know that it was more than fate, that brought us together. Well that night was the
nite I knew that Ryan was always going to be there for me . We hung out that whole
nite and the next day he CALLED to make sure I was
ok. This was June of 1991. We went off to College but not at the same time, however went to school in the same state! We wrote letters and postcards and called each other when we had the money. We were best friends for such a long time, we would spend all of our holiday time together and when we got back to school we got on with our lives. Through the years we had our own relationships with other people and were there for each other for the bumps a bruises. We never judged, just lent a shoulder!
Here is where it begins to get dramatic! One Thanksgiving, Ryan wasn't coming home and I was really bummed! I remember being over at a friends house and she said that someone was at the door for me. I was thinking, who could it be and when I got to the door it was RYAN! I was so happy to say the least. we gave each other a hug but his hug didn't feel like my hug. We pulled apart and the look on his face was somber. We began to walk across the street to my house and I said," You didn't come by yourself did you?" He told me no and that he brought his FIANCE to meet me. I thought I was being hit by a MACK truck! What was I supposed to say to that? Well I rose to the occasion and was polite and gracious, because he was my very best friend. I got to the house and SHE was sitting in my chair, "ghetto"locks was sitting in my chair!
She seemed so
unthrilled to be there, oh and believe me I wasn't holding a parade for her either.
The whole thing felt so wrong, they didn't look at each other or have that I am madly in love look. She had attitude for days and even copped on with my mother and that is when I almost lost it and sent her country ass back to Ohio! When he announced that hey were going to go, I felt a tightening in my chest and a knot in my throat. I felt like that was going to be the last time I was gonna see my friend. I knew he was about to make the biggest mistake of his life. SOMETHING HAD TO BE DONE AND I WAS JUST THE GAL!
That night I found myself crying, weeping and sobbing to my mother that I wasn't going to be able to keep what I cherished so dear. All she did was listen. Thought the tears I realized that I loved my friend, more than "just a friend". Well we remained movie buddies, but he was still engaged (and BTW she proposed!) and I was developing feeling for him on a whole new level.
We soon started seeing more of each other, more and more! We were falling in love but we had an issue of a fiance. We went
thru ups and downs and around and around. After months of playing boyfriend/girlfriend until he broke it off with her. I basically gave him an ultimatum: her or me! plain and simple! I had given him until May 5
th,
Cinco de Mayo! I knew that if he didn't choose me I would be upset and hurt but I could stand to see him make a HUGE mistake.
We were placed in each other's lives so that we could learn what real, unconditional love is. We have been learning for 16 years and we continue to learn! Everyday is always something new! I can truly say
that I have married my best -est friend in the whole world! I am truly
blessesd to be living my dream as we walk side by side through life. SO you see it was a lot more than fate!
I love you !
